Because if you pay close attention to Beyonce (and if you are hating on her you are), she kind of is singing about some pretty OK stuff. It is very important to learn how to kick dumb dudes who mistreat you to the left, to the left. And if you can get past the Uh oh’s uh oh’s uh oh no no no’s, she is very clearly about empowering women to embrace who they are and be who they want to be. And I thought that’s what all this damn feminism, womanism, and general lifeism thing was all about, anyway?
lol no Beyonce is still the face of fauxminism errwhere
admire Beyonce’s kick-a-dudebro skills all you want but if you want to laud her as the face of feminism in pop culture today then our situation is direr than I thought
… how, exactly? From the very beginning of her career, Beyonce’s been about empowering women and girls. She makes her own money, controls her own image, and on the plus side, she’s frequently surrounded by women as back-up musicians and dancers who are also women of color to boot. She’s smart, unafraid of her sexuality, and has never apologized for being a working mother. Beyonce is a role model.
You don’t have speak like a women’s studies major to still be a positive force for women.
‘If I Were A Boy’ and ‘Girls Who Rule The World’ come to mind. And even though there’s nothing especially anti-feminist about her other ‘fuck-this-shit’ break-up kind of songs, there’s not anything particularly ‘empowering’ about them either, at least nothing that isn’t in pretty much all other break-up anthem from sassy female pop singers - Beyoncé’s just happen to be catchier. Her control over her career and image is relatively recent, too, not to mention that she has been coasting off this ‘yay girl power’ manufactured image since her Destiny Child/Independent Woman days. The Spice Girls were all about prepackaged girl power, too.
“If I Were A Boy” was about the double standards regarding men and women, which isn’t something you hear a lot of mainstream artists singing about. And even if “Who Run The World? (Girls)” isn’t true, it’s still nice to hear someone singing in favor of girls considering how hard culture works to disparage them. The thing with Beyonce’s “sassy break up anthems” (can we just agree not to use the world ‘sassy’ in relation to black women? like, please?) is that they’re not just break-up anthems. It’s not just whining about a guy that did you wrong; it’s about picking yourself up, dusting yourself off, and realizing you’re better off without them. (See: ‘Survivor,’ ‘Irreplacable,’ and ‘All The Single Ladies, which, since when did single women get anything but scorn in most mainstream media?) And from the very beginning, back in her Destiny’s Child days, Beyonce was about this. I’m not sure how “Independent Woman” is “fauxminism” considering the lyrics are all about how women can have their own financial autonomy, which is a far cry of the “girl power” of “if you want to be my lover, you’ve got to get with my friends.” And I’m not even going to touch the idea that just because Beyonce recently got control of her image, it means less, because that, that is fauxminism right there, because it implies that all her work means nothing because ‘oh, she didn’t have one hundred percent control of her money when she was a teenager.’
seriously when (Girls) came out people were all up in arms and it’s like…she’s singing about something positive? She’s celebrating women? And her own power? Like would you fuckin’ rather she go on about whatever banal, slut-shaming, stereotype filled pop shit most stars are write songs about, singing about how she’s cheer captain and i’m on the bleachers? At least her songs are about something positive and something that celebrates women. Why is she under the microscope for doing what do few pop artists do? ALL OF THIS.
these same bitches saying Beyonce is a fauxminist are also most of the time pro-lady Gaga, who writes way more sappy love songs from the point of view of a tortured female protagonist than Beyonce ever did.
In short, to anyone with dating experience, “nice guy” sounds like “essentially lackluster, if largely unobjectionable male person.” And this is what you’re presenting as your best trait. This is what you aspire to. Now, I hear some of you complaining “women always say they want a nice guy.” I know lots of women — I’m even related to a few — and I can’t say I’ve ever heard any of them say that. I can’t prove it, but this sounds like one of those things stand-up comedians say about women and everyone else just repeats. I’ve also never known a woman who cries when she breaks a nail — although I’ve known a few who swear like a 15-year-old sailor in jail — and I’ve never had a woman ask me if her outfit made her look fat unless she actually wanted and subsequently appreciated my opinion. So either I’ve stumbled upon a secret trove of women who aren’t passive-aggressive sob machines, or you need to stop mistaking Dane Cook routines for peer-reviewed sociological studies. At any rate, if a woman does say “I just wish I could find a nice guy,” I would suggest this is the equivalent of “I’m so hungry I could eat a horse.” Which is to say, she’s not hoping you’ll say, “You’re in luck, I have a dead horse in my backyard!” The Sapir-Whorf hypothesis states that the way you use language shapes your perception of the world. (This should not be confused with the Sapir-Worf hypothesis, which states that the Romulans are lying and we should raise shields.) So maybe you’d become a better person if you started by not using such a flaccid, pallid term to refer to yourself. Here’s my suggestion: Instead of trying to be a nice guy, aspire to be a good man. You might be surprised at the results.
I like this.